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Am I In A Toxic Relationship?

The blind leading the blind here😃😂but it was a request from my best friend so I need to do it and I think it's beneficial. Anyways, I feel like I can offer a few words on this topic, y'know, from experience😂😂.

OK, where to begin? First of, if you clicked on this blog I think that is a pretty clear sign that you are in a toxic relationship😂(unless of course you're here to support me in that case 💗). Yikes, sorry not sorry😅. But let's give more insight in case you really want to be sure👀.

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.First of all, are you even dating? Is it an exclusive relationship? Did you mutually agree to be together? If not, toroka mapema before it's too late😂 especially if you want a relationship and the other party doesn't.

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.No quality time. Let's put it like this, no person who really cares about you doesn't want to send time with you. I know you crave some quality time with them so what does that say when they don't feel the same about you? Tafakari hayo😅  

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.If you feel the need to play games. Games should be fun yes? Not putting you at risk of early onset of heart disease😭. Let's think about our health guys😂 

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.Blocking and unblocking. There is a reason you blocked them the first time, and you will soon go back to realising that so I rather just you do not. I don't care if they reach out through Gmail😂. Block them on there as well😂.

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.Getting back with an ex. Same here, there is reason you left them the first time. Believe that there is better out there for you, the past is history and let's leave it there people.

🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️.You feel like you are betraying yourself talking to them and I know you know exactly what I am talking about. And you have been knowing unafaa kuachana na yeye but I get it. You feel somehow attached to them. That is just trauma talking my sweet dear friend. Keep yourself busy with other things until you finally move on.

In conclusion, finally😂 I would say, honey you deserve sooo much better than whatever you are definitely not getting in this one. Staying is basically telling yourself you don't deserve good things, that you don't deserve a relationship where it's peaceful, there is a sense of love. Because no one hurts something or someone they love. And also, staying means you are actively allowing bad behaviour so you are not a victim anymore, you are an active participant. Let's love ourselves moving forward, you are actively sky rocketing pharmaceuticals' revenue😂.Because peace of mind is ultimately the goal in any relationship, otherwise what's the point? 

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